It seems lately that everyone of my friends who was happy and content in a long-term relationship have all decided to jump said ship with gusto! Our married couple of the group has taken to fighting without letting anyone else know, we always saw them as the happy, settled, getting ready to have kids kind of couple. They had the house, the cars, the dog...but little did we know about the turmoil inside of that happy home until they divulge that they are seperating and have been living in seperate rooms and sometimes seperate places for a while now. I'm amazed at how good people can hide stuff! Makes me think about how much I hide about my relationship, on here I hold back on some information cause I don't want to make this all about me and the bf, I want to make it about ME. Its my blog and I want to talk about myself like any good, upstanding, young woman should do hee hee. But in real life how much do I really talk to anyone about whats going on at home? Honestly not that much, I vent sometimes and and get advice but I never have told the whole entire story and I don't think I ever will. Theres just things you don't want people to know about, isn't that sad that you have to keep the stuff that really bothers you hidden? No wonder people go through so much turmoil, depression, anixety and the like... Well nevertheless its time to focus on my friends who are having hard times, relationships ending, Sides being taken and all out crying sessions where my shoulder gets wet. It sucks but I'm happy to help out when I can.
One of the bfs friends who had to get a girls view on things, came to me to talk to me about his gf who now resides in another province due to school, apparently said gf got plastered out of her mind and kissed a guy. Of course she told her bf what happened to relieve her guilt and her bf broke up with her and wants to know what I think on the whole situation. First of all, I don't know this girl very well but I know he really, really cares about her and this bit of info tore him apart. On another note its hard to give advice that I honestly wouldn't take myself so I have to state both sides of the coin, its a good thing she told him but at the same time since she remembered it happened she obviously knew she was doing something wrong when she did it and now she's relieving her guilt by telling him and really only hurting him more in the process. Its a hard topic to argue. I myself would not forgive and trust again too easily. I talked to the bf about the situation and expressed my opinion that its good that she told him but it doesn't make it right to do in the first place and I so would not want to be with someone I couldn't trust not to get drunk and go off and kiss other girls and think its okay cause they told me it happened, HELL NO! If you want to go out and get drunk and kiss other women then break up with me first cause I ain't having none of that. However the bfs view on this topic was if the person was drunk its not worth throwing away a relationship because of it, which in some instances is true, but overall its still wrong. You knew you were doing something wrong, you knew you'd regret it, you knew it would hurt the person you're with, so why, WHY in the hell would you even start down that road and do it? Doesn't make sense to me. I for one will not put up with it, if I'm loyal to you then I expect the same in return and thats that.
What do you all think?
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